I can't help but resent my boyfriend since losing 100lb and gaining confidence

DEAR DEIDRE: FROM my late teens, I was classed as clinically obese but now that I’ve lost all my excess fat, I can’t help but resent my boyfriend.

I’ve lost over 100lb and look and feel so much better. I’m now a size 16 and I have curves in all the right places.

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It wasn’t easy losing the weight. First of all I lost 62lb after having a gastric band fitted.

Then I treated myself to a Fitbit and managed to lose another 40-odd lbs.
I’m 29 and he’s 30.

My confidence is back but I feel so conflicted because my boyfriend is all over me. He sends me sexy texts and is really loving. But where was he when I was fat? He never said a thing about my weight – nothing negative, nothing positive – even when I asked him.

It hurts because I wonder why I didn’t get this sort of attention when I was big.

I feel sad for the fat woman that I was, and still carry her around with me.

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DEIDRE SAYS: First of all, huge congratulations for getting healthy – you should feel very proud.

It sounds as if your boyfriend loves you, no matter what your size. As you lost weight, you will have grown in confidence and felt happier.

Quite often it is this rise in self-esteem that is attractive to others and no doubt your boyfriend is enjoying your new found positivity.

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