I need to get my daughter away from her abusive and controlling boyfriend

DEAR DEIDRE: I HEARD my daughter’s partner in the background calling her an “ungrateful bitch” and a “drunken slut” while she was sobbing down the phone to me.

I’d just dropped her off after we’d spent a lovely evening together. This situation has happened many times.

He’s abusive and controlling.

She isn’t allowed to go anywhere unless he authorises it, he tells her how to dress and controls all the money too.

He’s threatened to take her to court to get custody of their children should she ever leave him, but my daughter can’t find the courage to go.

She’s 32 and her partner is 35. They have two children aged four and two. I’m her 59-year-old mum.

I need to help her get away from him.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Watching your daughter suffer at the hands of an abusive person is a painful experience for any parent. It is only natural you want to intervene.

Urge her to contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline (nationaldahelpline.org.uk, 0808 2000 247) and give her my support pack Abusive Partner? for guidance.

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