DEAR DEIDRE: A GUY I used to see has come back into my life.
We didn’t date, but enjoyed spending lots of time together. He broke things off eight years ago without giving me a reason.
I moved on and met someone new. We’ve been together for six years and have a two-year-old daughter.
Her arrival put a strain on our relationship. I’m 33 and my partner is 36.
I don’t know whether to stay with my partner for the sake of our daughter.
Do I stay for fear of upsetting him? I do love him but there’s no spark any more. The excitement of being together has gone.
The guy I was seeing says he wasn’t ready for a relationship before, but didn’t know how to tell me back then.
I feel torn.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I understand the attraction, but how much of that is because this guy represents your pre-child freedom?
If you get together with him, he will have to share you with an unhappy little girl whose home and family have been torn apart.
For the sake of your daughter, do all you can to put things right in your relationship with your partner.
My support pack Torn Between Two Men will help you to think this through.
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