DEAR DEIDRE: WHENEVER we have a disagreement, my girlfriend decides to give me the silent treatment.
It’s been going on for four days this time and I have had enough.
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I am 27 and my girlfriend is 25. We have been together for almost a year and most of the time things are great between us.
But if we have any kind of argument, she just clams up. She gets uptight even if she dislikes what I’m wearing and doesn’t care how her behaviour makes me feel.
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I sometimes think she simply needs space to calm down.
But I’m tired of giving into her and apologising for arguing, especially when I think I have valid points to make. I just want a quiet life.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your girlfriend sounds immature. The silent treatment is a passive-aggressive tactic people use in relationships when they want to punish or wound you, but it is emotional abuse.
Putting up with this silent treatment can take its toll on you.
My support pack Looking After Your Relationship explains how to communicate better.
But if you do not see any improvement in her communication after six months, you need to consider walking away.
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