Will the fact I can't get an erection ruin my marriage?

DEAR DEIDRE: MY marriage is being ruined because I can barely get an erection.

We only got married a month ago and this is stressing me out.


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She has a high sex drive and I am eager to please her.

You would think as newlyweds we would be having lots of sex but night after night I keep disappointing her.

I am 27 and my wife is 25.

I love her so much and want to please her. But for some reason I am struggling to get an erection and even when I do manage to get one, it goes down immediately.

I worry that my wife is going to get bored and leave me.

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She hasn’t said anything yet but I know she is feeling frustrated and disappointed.

I don’t know what to do.

DEIDRE SAYS: This is probably all about confidence.

You are putting too much pressure on yourself to perform and are frightened of failing. This in itself can play havoc with the way our body responds.

Take the focus off full sex for a while and concentrate on kissing, cuddling, touching and caressing.

My support pack Solving Erection Problems explains self-help.

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